We’ve had a full week, and sometimes it’s felt like we haven’t stopped. It’s been pretty full on, and has had some not so fun times. But the downs have been balanced by some great ups, and the week has been brimming with Little Things.
A Little Breastfeeding In Public
As a first-time mother, breastfeeding in public, in those early, raw, emotional days, was really daunting. I remember faffing around with scarves, trying to get a good latch whilst not suffocating the baby or overheating under all the drapes. Then as my confidence grew, we discarded the scarves and boldly breastfed wherever, whenever. Whipping out a boob became second nature. Then Bee passed the 6 month mark, then 1 year, then 18 months. And I begin to lose my nerve again. But it’s no longer about accidentally flashing some nipple. You anticipate people’s judgement. Because people don’t often see older nurse-lings.
I’m very much a supporter of normalising breastfeeding – especially nursing toddlers and children. This week I volunteered to be part of a final year photography project about breastfeeding in public. I met lots of lovely mamas, helped out a very talented student, and came away with some beautiful photographs of me breastfeeding. I’m going to put one on our living room wall, boob and all.
A Little Monkey
Toddlers grow up so fast and Bee is no exception. Her understanding and communication skills have come on so much, I’m amazed, and slightly concerned, about how much of what we say she is soaking up. Yesterday, as she was climbing all over me, I called her ”my little monkey girl”. The next thing I know she is dangling off the sofa chanting “oo oo ah ah, oo oo ah ah”.
A Little Yes Time
Bee has been having a bit of a tough time of it lately. She’s pretty emotional (which is so unlike her usual chilled disposition) and finding disappointment in most things. We try to take a gentle, attachment style approach to parenting, so do our best to follow Bee’s lead, avoid unnecessary conflicts and provide choice and autonomy. In a day of unavoidable adult errands and time constraints, I found a moment to give Bee 20 minutes of ‘yes’. We found a local park and Bee led the way. She took her pushchair, she splashed in the puddles. We lingered on the bridge over the beck. The pushchair was sent over gravel mountains and through soggy mud. A seating pavilion was climbed on, walked on and jumped on. We looked for “puppies” and we tested every swing in the play area – twice.
What have you been up to this week? What are your Little Things?